The next day, I dropped him home. But not before I got the usual barrage of "I want to work things out, but you're too busy with your "friends" crap. See, when we first started dating, all my (few) friends were in South Jersey. Yes, I was going to some Pagan events with a local coven, but I didn't really "click" with a lot of the members. A lot of them tend to be the hardcore new age hippie remnants who'd rather attend a "colon-and-aura" cleansing ritual rather than the latest movie. Oh, sure, a lot of the different conferences I went to were awesome but on the whole? I seriously cant imagine getting a past life regression on my kid done - with SD, she has enough on her plate from this life. Anyway, I didn't have a ton of friends in this area at the time, so I was able to devote a lot of time and energy into our relationship. Far more than he ever put in. And I became fast friends with his cousins and his brother's now-ex gf. And my social life revolved around that house (oh, that house of emotional poison).
Fast forward 4 1/2 years, and I had lots more hangout buddies in this area. Granted, they are younger, but somehow I can relate to them.
The point is, I have friends/ acquaintances that I didn't have 6 years ago when we broke up. And obligations to some of these people. And others that still want to hang. But of course, now SOB likes to make me feel guilty about having all of these friends when he keeps stating that he has NO friends and NO way to make new friends since he doesn't have a car and he doesn't have a license, and he doesn't live in an area with public transportation. And he always wants to hang out and go somewhere. Talk about not being happy at home....that's him.
Well, I am glad to finally sit down and write about this. It is certainly giving me food for thought about this issue. It may not be that he wants to be in a relationship with me in terms of getting married and such. Sounds as if he wants to use me for a) company, b) transportation, c) the obvious. Maturity wise, I think he is still 17 and I have told him as such. Also, I told him to work on his anger issues. Yup, he still has those. Anyway, both him and SD are good for contacting me when they need something. And with him, I will be busy but with her, I'm still a sucker. I can't help it, I helped take care of her for so long. Well, at least I did start dating other people and putting myself out there.